12 Steps On How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work By Ambassador Utchay.

12 Steps On How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work By Ambassador Utchay.


Proximity is a big challenge,If you are willing to work it out, here's how to give it every chance to survive and thrive


Steps/ Tips and Warnings


1.Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship. 

Setting parameters such as naming your relationship ( whether dating, seeing each other, boyfriend-girlfriend, engaged) as well as defining exclusive (limited to one person). These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line. Example: "Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should become more serious?" or "What are you looking to get out of the relationship?" Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need.

2.Do things together. Defy the distance.
As a long distance couple, it's important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. In a long distance relationship, interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. Incorporating other forms of interaction are important. Just think... People in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to emulate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously.

3.Consider using Skype video chat calls every day or as often as possible, text messages, phone calls and emails every day. 

It is important to maintain contact and to be in each others daily lives as much as possible.

4.Communicate in some way, every day, more than once if possible. 
Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask on for advice, E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Ensure the mails are substantive and detailed, it will show that you care enough to put in the time and effort. Write love letters. Send small gifts, cards, or send flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand—you don't take communication for granted!
You can set up reminders, including automatically-recurring reminders, for this purpose in calendaring on your laptop, pad or phone. This is especially important to remind you about important events such as; birthdays, anniversaries etc.

5.Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers. 

More time with friends or family, no arguments over toothpaste, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence.

6.Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart.

If there's a movie you both are interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Star gaze while you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a habit to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.

7.Avoid the temptation of being controlling

People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match—or someone else is a better match—your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work. Remember just because your apart doesn't mean you should act or feel like your single or let others view you as such. Half of  the commitment of being loyal in a long distance relationship is making it clear to the rest of the world your in a relationship. Your eyes and attention should be on your partner!  Flirting with someone else should never cross your mind. 
8.Try challenging each other. 

This is not the same as being controlling. You may find that you can do things for each other that you couldn't quite find the motivation to do on your own. Perhaps you could motivate yourselves to get some exercise or to cook better or more. It will give you something to do while you wait to see your partner again. It will also give you both something to strive for and talk about.

9.Talk about your future together. 

Assuming that ultimately you'd want to live together, discussing how you're going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.

10.Remember; Things will get better 

With time,  even the relationship will become better. Have hope! Be positive!

11.Visit often. 

Try to make out  time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone call. You need to see each other up close and personal, at every chance you get. The key here is to set up some "rules" about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them. Consistency can help a long-distance relationship survive.

12.Avoid jealousy and be trusting. 
One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship, you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worthy of trust until proven otherwise. Don't fall in the trap of interrogating your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a long-distance relationship doesn't mean your lives will pause. However, just as important, make sure you are being up front with your partner and not leaving them room to have questions, concerns or trust issues. Your partner will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure, it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive, but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too. You should both maintain your social activity and be happy with yourselves.

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